How to Pick the Right Kind of Man for the perfect Relationship

If you have set your heart on having the perfect relationship with your ideal man, it stands to reason that you need to have that ideal man in your life first. So how do you go about picking the right kind of guy to have the perfect relationship with? Just what is it you really need to know here?


There are some who say that you can't choose who you fall in love with and then there are others who say you can- I am of the latter school of thought, but that is of no consequence because the process is the same, you need to know what to be aware of so that you end up with the right guy to have the perfect relationship with.

5 things to consider.

1. Write down what your ideal man is like.

There are lots of men who you could fancy, and there are a few men who you could like and fewer still the number of men you will love and just as important there are even less men who will help you create the perfect relationship and not resist it. So describe him at least to yourself.

1. Already have in your mind what kind of guy suits you.

This isn't something a lot of women do. They will go to great lengths to make sure that the outfit they have chosen suits them, but rarely do they think this of the guy they've given their heart to as someone who must suit them, their lifestyle their outlook etc. And it's a must.

2. Identify whether you can comfortably discuss everything, your plans, your dreams for the perfect relationship with your man of choice.

Another area where some women become unstuck is in thinking that the guy they've got their eye on will change over time-he's rough around the edges now, but later he'll change. But will he? And what if he doesn't? Being able to comfortably discuss things with him now means you'll always be able to do that and that is vital for any relationship.

4. Know your weak areas in relationships

Are you the kind of woman who tends to fall for the charmers? The guys who take advantage of you? The guys who are all talk? The guys who can get you to change your mind and live according to what makes life easier for them?

When you know your weak areas- plug this up with coaching, or counselling or finding a good book specifically dealing with your blind spots because when you do then you are in the position to choose the right guy to have the perfect relationship with.

5. Grow change and develop with your boyfriend or husband.

This is vitally important. Lots of couples grow apart because one outgrew the other. If you make it your mission to keep that connection with you and your partner then you will have everything that is needed in creating the perfect relationship.

If you have the idea that crafting the perfect relationship comes at the price of work, dedication, focus and determination, then you'll want to make sure that the man who is your partner in this is the right man for the job. By following the steps above, you're going to give yourself the clarity needed to give yourself the best chance of achieving your goal.
By : Elaine Bothwell