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2010-11-23T08:32:00.000-08:00

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7 Signs He's Getting Too Serious Too Early! Here Is Something You Should Not Take Lightly at All

2010-10-02T01:48:00.000-07:00

A man who's serious about your relationship is a wonderful, heaven-sent gift. But if you're just on the first phase of your relationship, don't you think it's right to just take things slowly? What are the classic signs that this guy is rushing things a bit?

He's always around.

No matter where you go, you would notice that this guy is also around. This is because he can't seem to get enough of you so he'd make it a point to be with you whenever he can. Sometimes, he can get a bit scary as it would appear that he's already stalking you.

He's never late on any of your dates.

This isn't saying that a guy should be late every once in a while. But this guy is so punctual that he's sometimes there an hour ahead of your scheduled date!

All of his friends know about you.

And these people just don't know your name, they can also state your job, until what time you stay at the office, your hobbies, and your parents' names. This only means that he's been talking non-stop about you.

He's too agreeable.

This man will want to do things for you, he'll say yes to all of your requests and favors, and he'll also agree with all of your opinions. He does these things because he wants to make you happy. Seeing your frustration is the last thing that he'd want to happen that's why he'll always be on your side of the issue.

He's overly protective of you.

He wants to make sure that you're safe and that no harm would come your way. So he'll do all he can to protect you at all costs. He will be the one to open doors for you, he'll even willingly hold your umbrella for you! If he has to swat mosquitoes just to keep you comfortable, this man is sure to do it!

He's also overly jealous.

Since he wants to shield you from people and events that might cause you to get hurt, this guy will also make sure that no guy could get near you. He believes that both of you belong together and that no person should ever come between you.

He's talking about marriage early on.

Imagine dating him for just a few weeks and he's already talking about committing to you for a lifetime! If you encounter a guy such as this, make him realize that you're still on the early stages of courtship and so you should both take your time and just enjoy each day - at least for now.

By : Krista Hiles

Secrets to a Great Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

2010-09-23T20:18:00.000-07:00

Millions of people are in long distance relationships and distance has a way of posing problems. Not all long distance relationships are doomed though. There are a lot of things that can be done to help a couple make it until they are living in the same city or state again.

There are a lot of aspects to a relationship. Sometimes it's the simple things that make a couple the happiest. When trying to make a long distance relationship work try to do simple things together even though you are thousands of miles apart.

Watch a television show or movie at the same time. You can watch it on TV, online, or rent it. When it's over talk about it as if you just watched it together. If you have free minutes, be on speaker phone with each other the whole time. Playing online computer games together is something else to try. Or play games together using an Xbox or Wii. Pick a game you both like and have fun.

Technology can make a LDR a little easier to handle. Not only making you able to do things together, but you can also communicate in a lot of different ways. Phone calls are always great, but Skype or a webcam can be even better. Talking and being able to see each other will almost make it feel like you're not apart.

Instant messenger, text messages, Twitter, Facebook and e-mails can add a little variety to the way to chat. Communication will be the key to making your LDR work. Have a communication schedule, not necessarily specific times to talk, but how often. Do you and your significant other want to talk once a everyday, 3 times a day, every other day? Occasional surprise phone calls are good too.

Surprises can be exciting and meaningful in a LDR. Send love packages with candy or photos to your other half. You can even send a snack or something from home that they can't find in their new location. Send pretty much anything that will remind your partner of their home and how much you love and miss them.

The most important factor in making a LDR work is honesty and trust. Living states or even countries away from a significant other will bring up feelings of jealousy. There is no way to know what your loved one is doing and who they are with. The important thing is to learn to trust them and be honest about your feelings and what you're doing. Trust and honesty are important in all types of relationships, LDR's are no exception

By : Vince Armstrong

Mr Right - Will You Marry Me?

2010-08-12T06:41:00.000-07:00

Every woman's dream is to find, meet and marry the man of her dreams. But is there really an ideal man to marry? If there is, how will you make the right man to marry you?

So, you finally have the man of your dreams, tall, dark and handsome with a stable job, responsible, sweet and he loves you. What now then? How will you lead this perfect man to pop the question? Will it be okay if you proposed instead?

Having the right man and still not sure if he will be yours for life, is really not a good thought. Knowing that you're already at the right marrying age, but the man who you wanted to be the groom is still not proposing is quite a heart breaker. How can you possibly lead him on to ask you without being too obvious?

Here are some ways that might help you have that ring on your finger.

Include plans of what you want your family would be like if you will be together for good during conversation. Show how fond you are of babies during your daily walk in the park or at the beach. Be the best cook you can be. Prepare and cook meals for him every day, like a housewife does. Be extra caring, if you already are add a bit more of exaggeration. Like when you help him fix his clothes or when he gets home from the office.

Be one step ahead of him. Make him feel that even if you get married, he will not lose those happy times with friends or family. Never let him feel that you are competing with those people who are also dear to him. Let him know that his friends and family is also yours.

But then, at the end of the day whatever you do, however you do it, the most important thing of all is your feelings. Tell him how you love him and how you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him.

BY : Keith B carrey

Top 10 Ways to Get a Boyfriend - Hot Tips Every Girl Should Know

2010-07-22T19:51:00.000-07:00

Having a hard time finding the man of your dreams? Believe it or not, there are 10 ways to get a boyfriend and these tips are a must- know for every girl.

Ever wondered why there aren't a lot of great guys available? That's because you're not looking. Try and meet new people or go to certain places where you can meet great guys.

1. Be confident and comfortable with who you are. Stop worrying about imperfections. It's the quirks that make you more interesting. If you worry too much or seem insecure, then chances are guys won't find you attractive.

2. While looks aren't everything, it's still important to make an effort to look your best. Get his attention and put on nice clothes that will flatter your figure. Take it easy on the makeup. It's better to just enhance your natural beauty.

3. Guys want to go out with someone they can laugh and have fun with. So show him that you have a great sense of humor. Don't take yourself too seriously and just have fun when you're with him.

4. Flirt with him a little to show that you're interested. A sweet smile, a touch on the shoulder or arm can go a long way. It's subtle yet intriguing.

5. If you like a guy and you're bold enough, try the direct approach and ask him out. It can be casual, like going out for coffee. Something that doesn't scream commitment but at the same time he'll get the idea it's a date.

6. Don't complain or whine, and definitely don't put other people down. Don't be one of those women who gossip about other people. It's a turn off for guys.

7. If he asks you out, don't appear overexcited. But don't act too cool because he might misinterpret it as disinterest.

8. Always be yourself. Don't pretend to like something just because he does or it makes you look cool. He'll figure it out eventually, and you'll lose your chances if he finds out you're a fake.

9. Get to know each other and be friends. Don't immediately jump to being romantic if you just met him. Give it time and be comfortable with each other first. Find common interests and use this time to figure out if you two can really hit it off.

10. Send out good vibes and make yourself more approachable. If you're sending out negative vibes then it's probably the reason why you need to know10 ways to get a boyfriend. Smile and stay positive so guys wouldn't be intimidated by you.

By : Crystal K. Jones

How to Know If Your Boyfriend Really Loves You!

2010-07-12T21:38:00.000-07:00

The perfect relationship is said to be founded on love. If you're currently with a man that you're head over heels in love with, isn't it your biggest concern whether or not your relationship is for keeps? And wouldn't it be great if you're able to tell if he's totally, deeply, and madly in love with you? He's really in love with you if:

He tries his best to show up on time

A man who always has excuses for not showing up on time is trying to imply that you're not that important to him. While a guy who really cares for you would make time for you and to him, no other appointment would come first.

He is a gallant knight in shining armor

Does he open doors for you? When you're in a restaurant, does he pull out a chair for you? Does he volunteer to take out the trash each night? Then it only means one thing - you're precious to him and he wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you. He's simply a man who's in love, who would do anything and everything to serve you.

He remembers important information about you

A guy who's in love can easily remember important occasions such as your birthday and even trivial matters such as your favorite color or food.

He is excited to show you to his friends and family

It truly is love if he calls you sweetheart or darling in front of all his friends and relatives. And when you feel that these people are fond of you, then it only goes to show that he speaks positively about you.

He gives you flowers, boxes of chocolates, and sweet notes

Most of the time, you can gauge a person's feelings for you with the gifts that he often gives. It's plain and simple - why would you spend even a few dollars for someone who's not important to you? Only a few jerks would invest for the sake of sleeping with a gorgeous woman.

He treats you with utmost respect

When you talk, he listens whole-heartedly, and he doesn't judge you when you want to air out your emotions. He also doesn't raise his voice at you neither does he treat you unkindly whether you're out there in the streets or you're in the privacy of your home.

He stares at you

When a man drinks in your presence, seemingly memorizing the outline of your face, it only means that he's madly in love with you.

BY : Krista Hiles

Tips on Healing a Broken Heart

2010-06-24T08:40:00.000-07:00

In this article, I'm going to talk about healing a broken heart.

Going through a break up is one of the toughest experience you may ever face. For many people, their sole source of happiness was deeply rooted within their ex. When your ex is completely taken out of your life, much of your sense of happiness goes out with them. Therefore when people break off from a relationship, they experience a downward spiral where their life turns into a massive mess. They stop eating, sleeping, stop seeing their friends and family, and generally just wallow around the house sulking all day long. It's very common for these things to occur. The real question, is how do you deal with all of this?

To Journal

One of the best ways to heal a broken heart is to journal. Putting your thoughts and feelings down on paper will allow you to get all the negative feelings out of you. It's almost like a cleansing process when you journal. All the weird thoughts that are going on inside your head can be written down, which will give you a much clearer understanding of what's going on inside your head. Another great benefit of writing in a journal, is you'll have a clear record of the progress you've been making. You'll start to realize that you're writing about more good days than bad days which will give you a much more optimistic look towards the future.

Find a Hobby

Another thing you should do is find a hobby and passion that can take your time and attention away from the break up. A lot of people give up sports, music, or other activities when they are in a serious relationship. This is the best time in the world to pick up a new activity because you have a ton more time on your hands. What is the one thing in the world you always wanted to do but never had the time to? It's never to late too start. Did you want to become a rock start when you were younger? Did you want to be the next Michael Jordan? Get inspired and take action! This will help to heal your broken heart.
By : Tony Balbin

How to Show a Guy That You're Interested in Him - 3 Fool Proof Methods to Show Him Your Feelings

2010-06-09T23:22:00.000-07:00

Do you want to show a guy that you're interested in him, but you are scared that he may reject you? Do you like a close male friend, but don't want him to run away the minute you tell him how you really feel? Do you want to ask out that cute guy you keep seeing everywhere, but don't want to be rejected? You see, if you have feelings for another man, you don't actually have to be scared of rejecting or scared to tell him, because these 3 fool proof methods are rejection proof!

Read on to find out how to show a guy that you're interested in him....

Subtle Hints Work Best When Telling A Guy That You're Interested -

Sudden pressure can put a lot of stress on a man, which is why you should not abruptly tell him that you feel strongly towards him. What will happen then, is he will start to become scared of being locked on or of hurting you, and will become stressed trying to figure out what he wants.

Remember that you have had a lot of time to think about just how much you like him, but now you are presenting this very same idea to him for the very first time. Even if you have been friends for a very long time, this does not mean that he has been thinking about a relationship with you, as that is an entirely different matter. Therefore, use subtle hints, such as flirting softly with him and watch his response.

If he in turn becomes flirtatious as well, this means that he is interested in you.

Use Mimicking To Tell Him That You Like Him -

When two people like each other, they will naturally mimic each others' movements. For instance, if he smiles, you smile. If he is laughing, you laugh alongside him. This is a natural way to tell if someone is attracted to you, but is also a natural way to make them subconsciously attracted to you too.

All you have to do is positively matching his facial and bodily expressions whenever you are around him, alongside positively matching your own likes and dislikes to him. What will happen is he will notice that you do in fact have a lot in common and share similar tastes in things, and he will start to feel good around you.

He will then, on his own, start thinking about you and how he likes you, and will then try to find out if you like him just as much as he likes you.

Give Him a Chase

If you really want to know the true secret to captivating a man's heart and mind, it's simply to give him a chase. Men will automatically chase women who are not "too easy" for them to have, without even realizing it, because they subconsciously want something which is unique.

Men find challenging women to be unique, because these women make him work for their attention and time. He would understand it as this: "Gee! She really respects herself, and knows what she wants!"...and therefore would want you even more simply because you are giving him a chase rather than handing him what he wants.

In turn, you don't even have to tell him that you like him with this method, because he will be the one trying to tell YOU that he likes you!

By : Russell Jackson

Find the Man of your Dreams How to Find Mr Right

2010-05-26T20:12:00.000-07:00

1. Step Outside Your Routine - If you stick to a routine, it's obviously not working for you! So, the best way is to change your daily life thus diversifying your opportunities in a way you had never thought of before. Remember what kind of man you want to find, you must be brave and join whatever activity or behaviour your Mr Right may be doing. So, if you seek an intellectual go to book clubs or reading groups or relevant meet-up groups (make sure there are many men signed up), for example; if you seek a sporty guy join a tennis club (even if you can't play!) or a golf club. The gym is always a great way to find guys, especially if it's a big gym. Absolutely go at different hours, so you can see what type of people attend at different times in the day. If at 4pm you never see anybody interesting, go at 8am instead, or on weekends. Try different time slots!

2. Become approachable. This means creating a sense of approachability (which has nothing to do with being easy, or slutty, and so on) so that when the right guy comes along he won't be put off by your defensive walls or embarrassed behaviour. So, practice makes perfect. When a guy speaks to you, smile back, be polite (you don't have to become friends but just learn to be approachable without being easy). You don't have to give him your number if you are not interested, but just be friendly, that's all. When the right guy comes along, you'll have practiced the art of approachability and you won't 'mess it up'!

3. Become brave. It may be hard at first, especially if you have low self-esteem, but conquer shyness and embarrassment by practicing approachability. Also, don't hesitate to smile first at a guy if you really like him. You don't have to make it too obvious but let him know that you may be interested. That way he'll still enjoy chasing you and conquering you but you will have opened the door for him to do so. Venture out. Approach the guy of your dreams with one excuse of the other. He may be hesitating for a million reasons. Never fear rejection. Rejection is not rejection, it's mere feedback on your strategy. And there is always a way to get to his heart, so don't live in fear of making mistakes!

By : Jules Monty

Ways to Make Him Love You More

2010-05-17T18:04:00.000-07:00

How do I make my boyfriend crazy about me? That's a question we all wonder about when we find ourselves falling helplessly in love with the man we're dating. Our dream is for him to feel the same way we do. Most of us leave that to fate or chance but that's not really the best approach. Getting a man to love you more has a lot to do with the woman you are and how you interact with him. By treating him in a very specific way you can up his desire for you in no time at all.

When you're asking the question, how do I make my boyfriend crazy about me, you have to consider the dynamic between the two of you now. As women, we're prone to being the caretaker in all of our relationships. We go out of our way to make the lives of the people we love easier. This can translate into you doing things like cooking every night for your boyfriend, doing his laundry and just catering to all his needs. This seems like a wonderful way to get him to love you, but it's not. This may actually turn him off completely. When a woman gives too much of herself too soon in a relationship it makes her look desperate and pathetic. He's going to instantly wonder if this is how you act in all your relationships. Pull back a little and stop trying to do everything you can to make him love you. Sometimes not trying so hard is actually the better way.

When you love a man you want to see him as much as you can. That just makes sense, but it's not always what you should be doing if you want him to feel the same way about you. Men actually fall in love with women when they miss them. It's those moments in between dates when he longs to see your face or hear your voice that matter. If you are always chomping at the bit to see him, it's actually going to take him longer to feel closer to you. Keep your schedule full with your own interests and fit in dates with him a couple of times a week as opposed to every day. He'll prefer this.

The same can be said for how much you call him. Naturally when you're crazy about a man you want to talk to him. However, if you're doing all the pursuing, he's going to pull back and lose interest quickly. A good rule of thumb to follow is to let him do the calling. He may not call as often as you wish he would, but that's okay. Let him set the pace for the growth of the relationship. He'll feel less pressured and more open to falling in love with you.

By : Gillian Reynolds

How to Make Guys Think Your Hot - 3 Things to Try

2010-04-15T09:07:00.000-07:00

I am sure you wanted to learn how to make guys think you are hot. Who would not? The first reason that a guy can be attracted to a girl is when he thinks she is hot. Physical attraction is always one on the list of criteria for men. They will most likely notice a girl who looks sexy and physically attractive first before they realize that the girl next to her is actually smarter and intellectual.

The best thing to take advantage of this is to learn how to make guys think you are hot. I am sure that you would find this very compelling that it could lure you into the discussion almost easily. Of course, these are the things that I have tried myself and perhaps other women have also found out if it works or not. You will be the judge.

1 - Do not be afraid to wear mini

Hot cover girls all have one think in common and it is their capability to appear daring and sexy through their clothes. Mini skirts are not so bad at all. You just need to show of some skin on your legs enough to make men desire you. If you are not comfortable with mini skirts, you can try out skirts that are a little over your knee and work your way through there.

2 - Apply perfume

Believe when I say that the sense of smell does wonderful things to a guy. If they smell something sweet and fragrant, they would most likely give you one of their looks and this is usually the look of attraction through smelling.

3 - Be accommodating

Women who are hot do freeze men right before they even take a single step towards you. They will accommodate the attention and go through it with flying colors, grace and confidence.

I am sure it is not that hard to learn how to make guys think you are hot. You just have to unleash the woman in you and set it free as you go about attracting men and keeping them.

BY : Sarah Nichols

Free Magic Love Spells - How to Use the Magic to Get Back Your Love

2010-04-06T06:00:00.000-07:00

If only there was magic in the world, then you could easily restore your relationship with your partner with just a flick of the wand. Even if there was magic, it would likely not come free. So do put aside these thoughts because there really is no such as free magic love spells. Instead, there is the 'magic' of love.

This type of 'magic' does not require you to memorise arcane words or dig your fingers into the intestines of frogs. Instead, it requires you to reach into your heart and bring up your love for your ex. One way to show your partner your love would be writing a letter. It would only require ink to write it, thankfully. Do consider handwriting your message to your partner instead of emails or text messages. Electronic mails all look the same - same font, same size, same colours. There are some people who would feel that an electronic message is insincere and it might put them off.

When writing your letter here are a few guidelines you could use to follow:

Talk about the problem you two are facing and write what you think may be the issue. It is not always for you to point your finger and place the blame on your partner. It is also not for you to defend yourself for the actions you have done. It should be time to neutrally suggest what are the problems you are facing, even if you need to admit it was your fault. Do not fret, though, because your partner will understand that both of you had some part in the break up.

Do not just promise you will change. You will need to actually do something and show how you are sincere about keeping your relationship. You would need to know what you have to improve in yourself or what you need to avoid in the future so that your relationship can be kept stable. Let your partner know that you are looking into your weaknesses and you are trying to improve yourself. It may not be possible to show your partner your changed self, but you could give assurance by writing in the letter what you will be doing.

Tell him about your feelings now that you two are separated. Have you been feeling lonely? Are you finding it difficult to do certain things alone? Do not just cry in the letter or complain about how lonely you are because nobody really likes to deal with a despairing person thinking of suicide. Furthermore, you might display yourself as just another desperate person, turning off your partner even more. Writing about your feelings is to let your partner know you still have feelings and you are sincere about your relationship.

by : Johnny wayne

How to Win the Man of Your Dreams

2010-03-25T14:46:00.000-07:00

You have seen the man of your dreams who is smart, exciting and gorgeous. The only problem is making him aware of you. At present he does not even give you the time of day. If you are going crazy wondering how to win him over and grab his attention, all you have to do is follow these techniques and you will find it easy to win him over.

Don't be scared of losing out
Don't be afraid of ending up with a broken heart. You have to concentrate on making your dream come true. You will have to do your best to attract him and make an impression on him. It won't come easy because love generally does not come easy. You have to work on it with all your heart without any negative feelings.

Have the right techniques
The right techniques will produce the best results. In the same way the wrong methods will produce failure. Don't let a few challenges along the way stop you from winning your dream man. Plan out your strategies and put them into action.

Have a solid foundation
There is no point in trying to do anything to win him over if you are not really sure about him in the first place. Be convinced in your heart that he is the only one for you. Once you do that it should be the basis of your endeavors to get him stuck on you.

Don't be scared of being yourself
Sooner or later you are bound to forget to pretend and the real "you" will be revealed. The fastest way to impress the guy is to be frank and honest with him. Let him see you being happy and comfortable in your skin.

Entertain him
This means that you have to be interesting and exciting company. Guys usually have an attention span that is short. Being serious and having "heavy and deep" conversations can be pretty intimidating. Let him enjoy himself around you.

Use simple psychology
People usually want what they cannot have. So play a little hard to get and don't be too available. Don't hang on to his every word and make it too easy for the guy or he will lose interest in you.

Use your looks
You don't have to look like a model to win the man of your dreams. All you have to do is have a style and look that is unique and outstanding. A guy is automatically attracted to a woman who dresses well and looks stunning. Your character and personality has a lot to do with your overall appearance.

By : Russell Jackson

How to Find Man and Keep Him - 3 Things to Show the Way

2010-03-16T13:52:00.000-07:00

A lot of single ladies out there are always looking for ways to know how to find a man and keep him. I am sure you have been to this exact situation otherwise you will not be here wishing you really know how. Do not worry because I have been there myself as well. Now, I am not pretending to be an expert to love and dating but I do know that men are human too, which means they have feelings just like the rest of us.

I am not sure that I learned how to find a man and keep him the easier way but I can point you into going to this direction. Below are some tips that you might want to check out.

1 - Go out there

Although the advent of online dating made it possible for you to find your man through the internet, nothing really beats meeting men in real life where you can see them and get to know them the way it should be. How will men notice your existence if you will not go out there?

2 - Build up a good personality

I must admit that physical attraction is still one of the qualities that men look for. This will make them decide whether or not their feelings are superficial or deep. Most men will not go serious dating with women that they only find physically attractive but most of them will go for women who have good personalities as a whole. Including in the list is confidence.

3 - Attend social gatherings

The best way that you can find the best men is through attending social gatherings whether it is work-related gathering or plain "friends" parties. You just go there and remain true to yourself. Who knows that your prince is just around the corner waiting just like you?

I am sure by now that you are imagining the things that will make you learn how to find a man and keep him. I am hoping that you find this helpful in a way that it has been to me.

By : Sarah N

3 Tips on How to Attract Men

2010-03-04T23:55:00.000-08:00

How to attract the opposite sex especially the men? I know it's a difficult thing to make someone desire you and want you if you do not have the qualities that he may like about a woman. So, if you found someone that caught your attention and you wanted to be with that person then prepare yourself for a battle. When you have realized that he is attractive and handsome, other woman had also realized that same thought, too. Meaning: Much competition is in the rise.

There are many ways to attract men and it also depends upon his personality, which kind of style you will use. So, there are certain steps on how to attract men. These are things that you should keep in mind so that you could have a successful mission. There are things that you should ask and to know about yourself and having a relationship as well.

First, do not be fooled by your assumptions. He is not a perfect person. All of the people have the different unique personality, he may be good but he is not perfect. In a relationship, you do not need a perfect person to have a successful one but a perfect relationship is comprised of two imperfect people that can relate to each other and create a perfect, harmonious relationship. Always keep in mind that having a relationship with that person would not be happy and like floating in heaven. There would be ups but also the downs.

Second tip would be do not give away yourself too much to the guy that you wanted. Men love challenges, if you make him feel that you are head over heels in love with him then, he would just hurt you. The reason for that is he knows that you are in love with him and you can just forgive him. That is not how you can attract a man. One thing is to hold back for a little while. It is true that you are happy and you enjoy being with him but when you feel like you are too happy and your eyes are all shining for him then stop yourself, you are on the wrong track. Relax.

Lastly, don't feel embarrassed around him. If you feel anything that is all about being shy around him, don't be. Why? That may create another personality from you. You need to be your own self. Be confident because the person that you liked a lot sees this character of yours, it will make them attract to you even more.
By : K Berdin

First Date Tips For Long Term Relationships

2010-02-20T23:19:00.000-08:00

Sure, you're way past the first date. But revisiting those initial moments together is key to keeping things exciting. An added bonus over authentic first-date couples: you already know the good feelings are mutual and you're guaranteed to go home together, so there's none of that awkward fumbling. Here are some great first date tips that will help to remind you why you fell in love in the first place.

Plan in advance. This is one of the most important first-date tips. It's too easy to fall into ruts and even harder to break out of mundane routines. Set aside time for one another. Asking your partner out on a date can, in itself, make it more special because you've designated it as time to focus solely on each other.

Let the anticipation build. The nervousness and anticipation you feel before a first date is electric. Capture some of that by putting some distance between you and your mate before you meet. When your date day comes, try not to talk to each other (or see each other if possible) and the flutter you feel when you finally do meet up will remind you of when you first started dating.

Dress up. There's nothing more fun (and nerve-racking) than getting ready for a first date. Set the stage for an evening of flirting and fun by getting dressed up and making yourself feel beautiful. It will show that you feel confident and sexy - your partner is sure to appreciate the effort. If you live together, shut the bathroom door and only emerge once you've glossed up the lips and slipped on your best dress.

Remember your manners. When you've been with someone long enough, the mystery evaporates. Instead of eating at the table while you gaze into one anothers' eyes, meals migrate the couch and get eaten in front of the TV. You pee with the door open and you've seen the drool marks on his pillow. Forget all this for one night and get serious about this first-date tip: make the best impression by keeping your elbows off the table and chewing with your mouth closed. Good manners are crucial to showing your date you respect him.

Avoid housekeeping talk. Nothing kills the first date mood faster than reverting to everyday conversation: don't list all the chores that need to be done at home, and give it a rest on the catty girl at work - this way your first date won't just feel like any other day.

Ask get-to-know-you questions. You might think you know your partner by now, but there are surely things that may surprise you. Asking the kinds of questions you would ask on a first date: What are your top three movies/books/musicians? What kind of childhood did you have? What did you always want to be when you grew up? It's a great way to infuse a little newness in the date, stay in tune with each other and have a laugh.

Do something different. If you always go to the movies together, don't go to the movies tonight. This is a crucial first-date tip: sharing a new experience together will get your adrenaline going, intensifying your attraction. Choose something new and unexpected - a restaurant you've never tried, bowling or the opera for your first date. The payoff will be great.

BY : Veronica Rose

Valentine Oh Valentine

2010-02-04T17:46:00.000-08:00

Valentine's Day is without a doubt the one special occasion of the year that has romance and love connotations. Boyfriends and girlfriends as well as husbands and wive feel that Valentine's Day is the one special day of the year when they should proclaim or reaffirm their love and commitment to another. As such, finding a special gift is essential, as the common gifts have, over the years, have lost their meaning for most couples.

The common Valentine's Day gifts like flowers and chocolates are fine, but most men and women have received so many chocolates and flowers over the years that they have lost any special meaning. That said, these can be great options for a mother or mother-in-law as a good go-to, non-romantic gift.

Socks? New tie? Nose hair clippers? Searching for the perfect gift for your man on Valentine's Day can be about as daunting a task as giving your trash can a deep cleaning.

It doesn't have to be that way, however. Men, despite their stereotypical rugged exteriors, can be surprisingly sentimental. They also need a healthy boost of self-esteem every now and again.

Give your guy some quality personal attention. Plan a great dinner or special evening at home. Don't underestimate the power of compliments and affection. These can go a long way in sentimental value for your guy.

If your guy is more prone to the practical side of romance, give him a practical gift. Gift certificates to his favorite electronics store, a nice watch, video game, iPod or tickets to his favorite sporting event.

Personalized gifts are great too. A pen, ring, tie clip or other memento with your special message to him is something he will always remember you by. Just make sure that it is relevant and personal for only him. Avoid getting him temporary items, or at least combine those gifts with another gift that he can have forever.

The best gift for Valentine's are those that show creativity and are commensurate with the level of your relationship. For those who are dating, a romantic dinner with a gift of pendant or bracelet jewelry is always a good choice. Another creative idea is to exchange a gift of services, like coupons for foot rubs, massages or spa services.

For those in a long-term committed relationship, consider a gift that will endure into the future. Unique, custom-made jewelry is always a nice gift, one that will serve as a permanent reminder of your relationship. Another nice option is a weekend away at a bed and breakfast or a resort. Relaxation and a change of pace can often do wonders for a relationship.

The other great best Valentine gifts you can give are perfume, tickets, vehicle accessories, CD music, or even his favorite foods. If you give someone with the things they like most, you will show your care and love. Your man will think that you understand him very well and Valentine will be the great moment for both of you. It is the time to show how deep your love to him is.

Dinner For Two - How to Choose the Perfect Restaurant to Impress Your Date

2010-01-28T21:50:00.000-08:00

One of the characters in the movie When Harry Met Sally commented that restaurants are the new singles bars. That's because once you've met and sized up a prospective love mate, a restaurant date is the perfect way to get to know them. Here are a few pointers for those legions of people gingerly negotiating the singles scene on how to select a suitable restaurant for a date.

One common concern of daters - especially first daters - is running out of conversation. To avoid those awkward silences it's not a bad idea to choose a restaurant that has an on-site conversation topic. The theatricality of Japanese teppanyaki - good humoured Japanese chefs deftly maneuvering tasty morsels off the hot plate and into your bowl - is almost guaranteed to get the chatter going. Sake will also encourage even the most retiring wall flower to loosen up.

Noise level should be a consideration when picking a date restaurant. You don't want to have to listen to others' mobile phone conversations while you're trying to make sexy small talk (unless of course it's a Hollywood A-lister giving their iPhone a work-out, in which case you want to be able to hear every word). However many busy restaurants are only slightly less noisy than standing under a jet taking off, and your sweet nothings could be lost in a barrage of hubbub.

Remember that expensive doesn't necessarily equal romantic. Sometimes your favourite neighbourhood eatery is a better choice than the place all the critics are raving about. After all, the staff know you, you know the stand-out dishes and you feel relaxed there, and can thus devote your total attention to your date. It's also a good litmus test for a relationship - if your date turns up their nose at your favourite local Thai/French bistro/Italian trattoria then you know it's just not gonna work out.

If you do want to make a big impression, make sure it's a positive one. There's no point taking your date to a fancy restaurant if you end up feeling humiliated by the snooty service, unable to decipher the French menu and sweating bullets wondering how you'll be able to pay the bill. Plus you'll look like a complete loser when you order the steak tartare well done.

If you want to lash out on a "special occasion" meal at a fancy restaurant and you're not a veteran of expense account dining, remember forewarned is forearmed. Confer with friends for recommendations, check out your local restaurant guide and/or check out the menu on the restaurant's website. Then you'll have an idea of the cuisine, prices and ambiance of the place before you book. And if you get into trouble, don't be too proud to ask the waiter for help - that's what they're there for.
BY : Charles cuninghame

7 Keys to Improving Your Love Relationship

2010-01-21T18:40:00.000-08:00

Are there any magical display that makes some love relationship last longer than some other ones? Maybe. Do some people sit down and do nothing, while others give in to chances? It indeed sound so. Or maybe some just took time to learn secrets of successful relationship from their parent, grandparents or from relative or friends. And it seems that the latter is likely more accurate, here are some true, tried and tested tips from people who have enjoyed healthy, happy and long lasting love relationships.

1. Refresh - Spend some time to look back, refresh your mind and memories to share together what brought together in the first place. Do this, especially when passing through difficult times. Lean and rely on these old memories as your basis and glue yourselves together with them (not literally)

2. Dates - Have regular date together. No matter how busy you may be, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like visiting the movies, playing games, listening and dancing to music loved by each other.

3. Fun - Couples have lot of fun when they are still dating, but when they get married they become too serious. Lighten up. Have fun together with what both party love to do. Play games, watch movies, visit parks and so on.

4. Forget - You must always avoid remembering the bad things that happened during misunderstanding or an argument. Make yourself forget them. Be the first to apologize and make up. Don't linger on the past.

5. Space - Give your mate some space when they demand it. Either you trust or do not. Move on with life. Sometimes people need time alone, with their mates and other friends. Make sure you give and take your fair share of space.

6. Disagree - Sometimes, you disagree with your partner to agree on some issues, leave it that way. Don't create a new religion or political movement in order to appease both of you. You don't necessarily have to agree on everything, and you won't. That okay.

7. Memories - Do have some good old memories together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates, valentines dates and events. You don't need to be flamboyant. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching tennis game. The next year, schedule time to watch it again, make it an annual thing.

So don't just sit back and fold your hands. Take these steps to make your relationship worthy of envy and emulation and let life's problem pass by while you hold on to your love relationship

Making a relationship work require knowing what to do and how to do it. If you follow some tried, tested and true ideas, it possible you can also improve your love relationship
By : Oluwole Eleyinte

You Know When You're Truly in Love

2010-01-15T09:17:00.000-08:00

When two people love each other, they don't even have to say "I love you" to each other, because their actions say it endlessly. When the sun rises, and it's time to start the day, they embrace each other, and say "good morning'' with a sweet passionate kiss. While wishing they could stay in bed all day, and just cuddle, cause there's no place else they would rather be then in each others arms.

They speak to each other in the utmost, respectful tone of voice. Hoping never to offend the others feelings in any possible way. Their eyes ablaze in a fire of passion whenever the other is in sight. Their bodies move in a language of love that only they can understand. When a problem comes along, they bring it to the table never to argue uselessly, or disrespect, but only to come to a solution they both can agree on.

When one becomes ill, the other sacrifices themselves to be there for their lovers needs. Even if it means giving up a night with the buddies, or losing a days pay. Whatever the cost may be it does not matter cause, there well being comes first When one ask for a favor, the other does it without complaining about it.

When one is happy, the other rejoices in perfect harmony. When one is sad, the other mourns in a cloud of rain, cause they feel their lovers sorrow. All in all, their heart, mind, body, and soul are perfectly tuned together, that they are truly one. God says that whatever He brings together, let no man separate. Never forget that love is the most powerful force under the sun..

Tips For Snagging a New Boyfriend

2009-12-19T13:58:00.000-08:00

Are you reeling from yet another failed relationship? Do you feel lonely, sad and pathetic? Well it's time to get yourself out there, hitting the streets in search of a new man. You've really got to be picky this time though if you want to avoid another insensitive macho loser. You need a boyfriend who can relate you both intellectually and emotionally. Follow my relationship tips and you'll find the perfect new boyfriend.

1. Don't literally 'hit' the streets in search of a new man. Before putting yourself out there, you should make a list of your ideal man. Think about the traits that appeal to you most. This list is just a symbol for you, so it can be slightly unrealistic and general. It will be mental reminder of what you absolutely don't want from your new romantic partner.
2. Next give yourself a break and stop dwelling on the mistakes and mishaps of your last relationship. You don't want these to spill over into your next relationship. Come to terms with your failures and move on.
3. Now its time to get yourself out of the house. Start making an extra effort in your appearance. Wear make-up, do your hair and wash your clothes. It's easy to let yourself slide when you feel depressed, but this won't help if you want to snag a new guy.
4. Start expanding your circle of friends to increase your pool of potential dates. Take a class or volunteer. You never know, you could meet the man of your dreams while doing something you enjoy.
5. Ask your friends to set you up on blind dates. This may be uncomfortable at first, and you're guaranteed to have at least a couple of bad dates but it will get better as time goes by. If none of your friends have single guy friends then sign up for some internet dating sites and make your own blind dates.
6. When out with your friends at a bar or a concert, make an effort to approach men you find attractive. This will build your self-confidence and men will appreciate your boldness.
By : Bree Davis

Help I'm Single for the First Time in Years

2009-12-13T00:58:00.000-08:00

You’re back on the dating scene. But you’re worried as it’s been a long time since you were single or looking. Regardless of how exciting and new it all seems, it’s only natural for one to feel unsure and ‘out of practice’ when taking the step of going on dates again.

So, I have compiled the ten best things you can do to gain some confidence, and have more fun during this transition.

1) Get a makeover. A new haircut, wardrobe, or updated makeup will not only make you feel better about yourself, it will also help to mark this time of your life as a new beginning, and something to be excited about. If you look and feel great, it will give you more confidence which is always more attractive to others.

2) Don’t take it all too seriously to begin with. Look at this time as a chance to get used to talking to others, flirting, coming out of your shell. It doesn’t matter if a serious relationship doesn’t develop, as long as you are having fun! Enjoying yourself will put others at ease and more people will approach you.

3) Start out by going out with a group of friends first. This will feel more natural to start out with.

4) When on a date, nerves sometimes can take over, and we tend to talk more, try to overcome this. Please try to avoid this. Learn to become a great listener. Also, when you do talk to your date, keep the topics light to begin with. Speak slowly, you’ve got all night! Try to discuss subjects you are both interested in, which will help the conversation to flow more smoothly.

5) Always have a ‘way out’ planned in case a date does turn out badly. Take your mobile phone with you, and ask a friend or relative to phone you at a certain time. If you really want to bail out of the date early, you can tell your date after the phone call that you are very sorry, but you’re going to have to cut the evening short.

6) Remember your date is just as nervous as you are. They are obviously interested enough to get to know you better, and are therefore just as anxious to make a good impression. Try to spend your time on dates, making the other person feel at ease. Not only will your date appreciate this effort, but you will be focusing less on yourself and how you’re ‘doing’.

7) Try to keep up to date with current news events before your date. Nobody is suggesting you pore over newspapers for hours on end. However, if you have some understanding of what is going on in the world around you, it’ll give you both a conversation topic that is easy to discuss.

8) If you have just suffered a painful breakup, try not to focus too heavily on it. Your date wants to know all about you. Not your ex. Of course, if you are going through a divorce, it’s fine to mention it, but keep it to a minimum, and remember your date is not your therapist!

9) Take care of your health. Eat well and exercise. A healthy person is a happy person, and this will reflect well in your self esteem. Know that you are putting your best self forward.

10) If you come across a set back (for example, your date loses interest or you lose interest in your date) don’t worry! Look upon it as practice. Remind yourself that the aim was to have fun and you did. Look forward to your next romantic adventure!

Cute Nicknames to call your boyfriend - Be the most Romantic Girlfriend ever

2009-12-06T07:42:00.000-08:00

Having a few cute nicknames to call your boyfriend sure is romantic and all sweet, it gives your relationship a whole new twist and a way to show off to people that you have certain bond only you two understand. It also adds spice and thrill to your everyday lives too. Knowing a few cute nicknames to call your boyfriend makes you a romantic girlfriend --- and we all know guys love a romantic girlfriend. So here are a few tips to get chummy and sweet with your guy and finally be the sweetest, most romantic girlfriend ever:

* Something that says about his character. Does he love to play the guitar? Who can call him your "little rocker" or something. You can call him "Sleepyhead" if he loves to sleep (Sleeping beauty sounds a bit teasing too) or lovable piggy if he loves to eat so much. Make sure to sound endearing and loving when calling him his nickname.

* Food and animal names. Food and animal names may seem too corny for your taste but hey, they work too! Make him call you cute nicknames as well --- it's time to unleash the child in the both of you. Next thing you know, you'll be wanting to be called by that nickname all the time!

* A mannerism. Does he have a cute grin? Does his left eye grow smaller than the other when he's thinking? Make cute name nicknames out of his mannerisms and he'll absolutely be thinking about you when he does it. Get creative and totally cute with it too.

* Something he's good at. He loves skating, he adores the Beatles and he can't resist not trying those chocolate chip cookies --- make cute nicknames out of these passions of his. He will definitely love, I assure you. He'll be calling you by your cute nicknames soon enough!

Make everyday a special day with you and your guy. Get creative when it comes to making cute nicknames to call your boyfriend and the romance will definitely last
By : Julia Di'Silva

Obvious Signs That He is in Love with you - find out if it's you!

2009-11-23T20:02:00.000-08:00

He's always around - This simply means he wants to be with you all of the time. Why would anyone want to be with another person most of the time if he's not into you, right? He's in a happier and lighter mood when you're around and wants to prolong the meeting as much as he can.

He wants to hangout - He's always around or would go over your doorstep and say hi and would ask for you to hangout with him. He enjoys every minute and wants to be with you always. He asks you where you are, if you're available tonight and if you're up for a little chitchat. He is always trying to make plans to see you again.

He talks about it - When you tell him something, he wants to dig deeper. He asks a lot of questions and wants to keep you talking. When a guy wants to keep the conversation going, he's pinning you and trying to keep you with him longer. It means he is genuinely interested in you and wants to find out more and doesn't want to leave, but only stay.

He's happier - And it shows! Love does really speak for itself. When a guy becomes happier and jollier and in a lighter mood when he's with you, he's got the love bug all over him, honey. He talks animatedly, would try to act all cool and smooth with you and will try to impress you to the brim.

He teases you - Come on, this is old school love! Most guys who are lovesick will try to win your attention or would do anything for you to notice them as much as they can. When a guy starts teasing you and looks like he's having fun especially when you play attention and get all excited as well (remember, this can be flirting too!) he means something else than just an innocent joke. Believe it nor not, people tease the people they love.

Convinced he's totally in love with you now? There are just so many techniques on how to read the male species. Pretty soon you'll be armed with an arsenal of information that can easily have you detecting what men are feeling towards you.
By ; Julia Di'silva

Keys to Endless Love

2009-11-15T01:17:00.000-08:00

Love, is more than just a word that you tell your significant other. It is a word, an emotion, a feeling and a way of life. Love is how many people measure success. And success in their eyes is endlesslove. Is endless love what you are wanting for your relationship?

Endless love can be achieved reasonably easy if both partners want it enough, and will fight to keep their love strong. Are you wanting to know the keys to endless love? Well I have the secrets that if followed will ensure that you will have a lifetime of love with your relationships.

1. Deal with problems early on
If you deal with any problem early on you will make sure that all problems are dealt with and in a reasonable amount of time. Time is of the essence when it comes to your relationship.

2. Stay connected
In any relationship you need to stay connected to your significant other. Most people just want to know that they are the most important person in the world when they are with you. In order to stay connected you need to spend time with your significant other and talk about your lives apart as well as together.

3. Date
One of the number one reason people get divorced of start to hate each other is because they don't have that spark that they first had when they were dating. If you can keep dating your significant other then you will rekindle the flame that you once had.

5 Steps to Becoming the Kind of women who can Have the perfect Relationship

2009-10-22T14:11:00.000-07:00

Have you ever wondered whether there was anything special about the kind of woman who have happy relationships? And then wondered whether you have the same traits? If so, what are they?

Those women who are the happiest apply a secret that few of us do, and it's a secret that is so blindingly obvious that it's only a secret because so many of us don't do it. So what is this secret?

The secret to being the kind of woman who can have the perfect relationship is your decision to be so.

Not much of a secret you may be thinking and that's why it's so valuable because your decision now is helping you to have a great relationship with your ideal man or not. So how can you achieve this?

Here's how.

1. Decide that you can have this.

Even though you may never have seen one, except maybe in books or on tv, you can have and are going to have the kind of relationship that works for you, and as outlandish as this thought system seems, it really starts here.

2. Write down your version of what a this would be like for you.

Include all details of how you'll feel and how you'll know you have your relationship and how your guy will treat you and you him- write it all down.

3. Ask yourself what it will take to have your love life as you want it

Just like business men and women ask what they need to do to achieve their outcomes, you are doing the same here- so what is it you need to have, be, do or think that will help you create the perfect relationship?

4. Get help and assistance.

Find the person or the resource who can give you help and guidance in fleshing out what the perfect relationship would be for you. And that's a key distinction- for you. The perfect relationship for your friend wouldn't necessarily be the perfect relationship for you- so get some help and guidance here.

5. Decide whether you're really willing to do whatever it takes to have the perfect relationship.

This question is a tricky one because you may know you want the perfect relationship and even have the necessary resources to help you achieve it- but are you now willing to do the 'work' to have one? Only you will know.

Now you know the secret, which isn't so much a secret, as a means to having the perfect relationship, put all these steps into practice and you can be living your dream. Remember it all comes down to your decision.
BY : Elaine Bothwell

How to Pick the Right Kind of Man for the perfect Relationship

2009-10-22T11:07:00.000-07:00

If you have set your heart on having the perfect relationship with your ideal man, it stands to reason that you need to have that ideal man in your life first. So how do you go about picking the right kind of guy to have the perfect relationship with? Just what is it you really need to know here?

There are some who say that you can't choose who you fall in love with and then there are others who say you can- I am of the latter school of thought, but that is of no consequence because the process is the same, you need to know what to be aware of so that you end up with the right guy to have the perfect relationship with.

5 things to consider.

1. Write down what your ideal man is like.

There are lots of men who you could fancy, and there are a few men who you could like and fewer still the number of men you will love and just as important there are even less men who will help you create the perfect relationship and not resist it. So describe him at least to yourself.

1. Already have in your mind what kind of guy suits you.

This isn't something a lot of women do. They will go to great lengths to make sure that the outfit they have chosen suits them, but rarely do they think this of the guy they've given their heart to as someone who must suit them, their lifestyle their outlook etc. And it's a must.

2. Identify whether you can comfortably discuss everything, your plans, your dreams for the perfect relationship with your man of choice.

Another area where some women become unstuck is in thinking that the guy they've got their eye on will change over time-he's rough around the edges now, but later he'll change. But will he? And what if he doesn't? Being able to comfortably discuss things with him now means you'll always be able to do that and that is vital for any relationship.

4. Know your weak areas in relationships

Are you the kind of woman who tends to fall for the charmers? The guys who take advantage of you? The guys who are all talk? The guys who can get you to change your mind and live according to what makes life easier for them?

When you know your weak areas- plug this up with coaching, or counselling or finding a good book specifically dealing with your blind spots because when you do then you are in the position to choose the right guy to have the perfect relationship with.

5. Grow change and develop with your boyfriend or husband.

This is vitally important. Lots of couples grow apart because one outgrew the other. If you make it your mission to keep that connection with you and your partner then you will have everything that is needed in creating the perfect relationship.

If you have the idea that crafting the perfect relationship comes at the price of work, dedication, focus and determination, then you'll want to make sure that the man who is your partner in this is the right man for the job. By following the steps above, you're going to give yourself the clarity needed to give yourself the best chance of achieving your goal.
By : Elaine Bothwell

How Women Make Men Fall in Love - steps 1 and 2

2009-10-15T10:35:00.000-07:00

How do so many women succeed in making a man fall in love with them? Do they have some secret power? What are they doing that you're not doing? Do you think it's possible for you to make him fall in love?

Some women don't even have to think about it; attracting a man comes naturally to them. But for some, perhaps you, there are two basic rules you need to keep in mind every time you meet a man who interests you.

The first thing you need to remember is that you want to attract him, not repulse him. But laying it on too thick can, indeed, repulse him. Don't come on too strong. If you flirt, keep it subtle. If you take a step towards him, make it a small, tentative step that invites him to take a larger step towards you. If you start to feel a strong emotional bond, keep it to yourself and wait for him to come around and realize on his own the love he has for you.

Making too many first steps, pushing forward too aggressively and trying to take control of every aspect of the budding relationship is a surefire way of sending him running. Show him you're really into building the relationship by being fun to be around.

The second thing you should do is work at building a strong emotional bond with him. You don't want to force him to display false emotions and you can't get him to simply manufacture emotions he doesn't feel. Show him that you can be the woman he needs in various aspects of his life. When he wants to party after a long, hard week at work, be the fun girl he has a good time with. And when he's upset about a lost contract or broken deal, be an attentive ear and let him vent his frustration.

While men need to feel strong and capable of taking care of you on one level, they also need your strength and your loving arms in moments of self-doubt, of unsuccessful ventures or when they just feel low.

If you want to make him love you, show him you can be there for him in the good times and bad. This doesn't mean you should have to get on your knees and do absolutely everything for him all the time, but being there for him emotionally will build a strong bond of trust, security and, ultimately, love.
Tina L.Jones

Planing an Upscale Romantic Picnic Dinner

2009-08-17T03:06:00.000-07:00

When couples think of a special romantic dinner more likely they think of a costly affair at an upscale restaurant than a picnic dinner. Choose a night, make reservations and hope your table is not near the kitchen, the bathrooms or next to an obnoxiously loud group who thinks everybody is interested in what they have to say.

But couples do not have to plan to the extend a bride does for an outdoor wedding reception which is, in the literal sense, a picnic, to have an elegant, yet inexpensive, romantic picnic dinner.

The first thing is getting something to carry the dinner service, tablecloth, napkins and glasses. You probably have containers around the house that would work, or, you could make a one time expenditure for a romantic picnic basket that contains all the above listed items.

Unlike a dinner at an upscale restaurant, a good picnic basket is reusable for a lifetime, not just a one time event. In any case, it is important to have an insulated container for food safety which is a part of good picnic baskets.

Besides food, the only other items needed for your upscale romantic picnic is a small folding table and two folding chairs.

Your picnic can be at a park, a wayside by the river, or a spot in a lovely yard. When living in an apartment I asked friends if I could use a corner of their beautiful yard for a picnic with my boyfriend (who later became my husband).

They were very gracious, even said we could use their bathroom, and stayed out of sight while we were there. The advantage was, I could set up my table ahead of time. Still, you can ask your partner to wait in the car while you set up the table and chairs in a open to the public spot.

If this is a surprise, heighten the drama by asking your partner to wear a blindfold while you set the scene, then lead him or her to the picnic spot.

Now for the food. Keep it simple, easy to eat yet something a step above everyday fare.

* Start with crackers (something besides soda crackers) and a couple of spreads such as wine cheese, pate, vegetable or something else that catches your eye.
* Quiche is good as a main course because it is not an everyday food yet can be eaten at room temperature. You can buy it in the frozen food section, bake it and cut it up before packing as many pieces as needed. Or buy individual portions.
* Small fruit, such as grapes or larger fruit cut into bite size pieces.
* For dessert: cheesecake with whipped cream. For ease, use the real whip cream in a can. Use a squeeze bottle of chocolate to swirl on the plate and put strawberries next to the cheesecake. The idea is to dip the strawberries into the chocolate and feed them to your partner.
* Beverages: Wine (non-alcoholic if preferred) with dinner and coffee with dessert.

Dress as you would for any special romantic outing and enjoy your private exclusive table.
By : Fabe van Zanten

Make Men Like you - Turn yourself Into a Super Seductress

2009-07-20T03:43:00.000-07:00

What methods have you been using to make men like you? Do you consciously try to think about what men want in a woman, or do you just fly by the seat of your pants? Do you believe that women actually have the power to turn themselves into superior seductresses regardless of how they look?

If you don't think that men are looking for certain traits in the women that they date, you are wrong. If what you are doing now doesn't seem to be working, then try these techniques to get men to like you.

Men can be frustrating because sometimes it seems that all it takes to get them to like you is flashing some skin and batting your eyelashes like a cartoon. It is true that men crave any and all female attention. But in order to make men like you and want to do more than stare at you or sleep with you, you have to know what they are looking for.

Contrary to what it may appear like when you watch a group of grown men drool over a stick-thin fashion model, men are not only interested in looks. They also want companionship from the women that they fall for. This means that if you want to make him fall for you, you will have to be his friend. Friendship is the kind of solid foundation necessary for romance to really grow from.

Second, do not treat your guy the way that you treat your best girl friend. With her, you probably feel comfortable going on joint crying jags and telling each other every tiny detail and secret of your life. Men are just not comfortable sharing their emotions like that, so don't expect him to.

Also, when you want to make a man like you, you should hold back on telling him precisely what you feel. You can certainly hint around and flirt with him, provided you do it in a subtle manner. But don't come right out and tell him that you are crazy about him. You need to make him work more to earn your love. By : Tina L Jones

Way to Say I Love You in Another Language

2009-07-14T06:23:00.000-07:00

Have you been looking for romantic and provocative ways to say “I Love You” to your special partner? There are numerous different and creative ways to say “I Love You,” but have you ever thought about memorizing “I Love You” in as many foreign languages as possible?

Imagine someone whispering to you “Je t’aime” or “Te amo” or “Aloha wau ia ‘oe.” You’d be intrigued, interested, and pleased, wouldn’t you? Well, try several foreign language translations of “I Love You” with a special person in your life and see what happens.

Afrikaans – Ek is lief vir jou

American – Have a beer

Australian – ‘ave another

Arabic – Ana Ahebak / Ana Bahibak

Cantonese – Ngo Oi Nei

Chinese – Gnoy oy na

Danish – Jeg eisker dig

Dutch – Ik hou van jou

English – I love you

Finnish – Mina rakastan sinua

French – Je t’aime / Je t’adore

German – Ich liebe Dich

Greek – S’agape

Hawaiian – Aloha wau ia ‘oe

Hebrew – Ani ohevet ota

Indonesian – Saya cinta padamu

Italian – Ti amo

Japanese – Anata wa, dai suki desu

Korean – Sa Lang Hae / Na No Sa Lan Hei

Mandarin – Wo Ai Ni

Norwegian – Jeg eisker deg

Persian – Tora Doost Darem

Romanian – Te iubesc

Russian – Ya tebya liubliu

Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo / Yo amor tu

Swahili – Naku panda

Swedish – Jag alskar dig

Swiss German – Ch-ha di garn

Tagolog – Mahal kita / Inilbig kita

Turkish – Seni seviyorum

Vietnamese – Toi yeu em

Do some of the translations above look interesting? Pick out your favorites, then find a good pronouncing dictionary in order to get the sound of the phrase as accurate as possible.

After all, you don’t want “Je t’adore” to sound like “Shut the door.” That would have an entirely different meaning.

Love Who You Married

2009-06-30T02:40:00.000-07:00

I believe the word "love" is thrown around just a bit too nonchalantly. Don't you think? People say they love but do nothing to SHOW that love. Love needs action to complete its purpose. So when I say "love who you married" that means to provide of your self in the marriage. That IS what love is!

Let's take a look at 6 biblically based principles that make up several areas of loving.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

1. Love Is Patient! Are you patient with your spouse? Patience is a virtue. It is a wonderful character trait to have and practice patience. Are you utilizing all of the potential that God has given you? Are you patient, or are you easily irritated and annoyed?

Do you listen to what your spouse has to say? Are you considerate and understanding of their needs and desires? Being patient with your spouse is one way you furnish love to them.

2. Love Does Not Envy! Are you jealous of who you married? Do you ever envy or resent your spouse?

Resentment runs rampant in marriages today, and it is literally tearing couples apart! You don't want resentment to tear apart your marriage, do you?

So often I hear couples tell me how resentful they are of their spouse for one reason or another, but mostly over petty little things that only need to be discussed! Instead what are they doing? Getting even! Have you talked to your spouse today?

3. Love Is Not Self-Seeking!! This is a biggy! I talk quite a bit about selfishness in my book, "Journey on the Roads Less Traveled", and in many of my articles. Why? I believe that it is a major issue with couples even though it doesn't always seem apparent.

I know how a selfish spouse can tear the other down with them. I've been there and done that one. I wasn't taught how to give of myself, being the spoiled little brat that I was growing up. I was so into "myself", and so out in left field for my marriage, that is, until I found the love of Jesus for my life.

We all have some selfish abilities that we shine intensely on occasion. But some of us are so selfish in marriage that we don't KNOW how to give of our self at all!! Many issues cause selfish behavior, but mostly it is lack of the spiritual Christ intervening in our psyche. What we allow into our mind is what we will output to others, mainly the person we married.

This is why I stress in previous articles that for a healthy and sound marriage couples need to take care of them selves FIRST, then and only then, can they help the marriage.

4. Love Is Not Easily Angered! Do you get angry with your spouse over nothing! Do you ever think that you might be behaving impatient and intolerable with your spouse?

What underlining problem might be charging your anger? If you are quick to anger, something deeper is bothering you. Until you get to the root of that, the anger will remain within your inner psyche ready to abuse whoever gets in the way. If you are abusing your spouse with your angry feelings, leave the house if you have to. It is wrong to berate your spouse with bad feelings of anger, and it hurts them terribly.

"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires." James 1:19-20

"A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man, calms a quarrel." Proverbs 15:18

6. Love Does Not Delight In Evil but Rejoices In Truth! This has to be the champion of all the aspects of love because if we followed this one simple principle we would not need any other standards to tell us how to love, or what love is. This straightforward verse speaks for itself, but for some of you, maybe you are not sure what the TRUTH is.

The truth is what will set you free from all of the above unpleasant aspects of your character, such as anger, resentment, envy, jealousy and strife. After all, these are only feelings that you carry around inside your head. You can either make them your life or find a new way of life.

If you want to be free of these feelings you need to find the truth, right? You need to KNOW the truth, right?

Deeply put, the truth not only sets us free from our weaknesses, but also makes us new people within that truth. Once we start applying THE truth into our life is when we can easily stop carrying around any bitter feelings, and negative attitudes that we may have.

Simply said, truth is God's words of wisdom. We will be walking in truth when we apply God's truth into our life.

Bottom line, the person who has wisdom is loving towards their spouse, faithful, honest, trustworthy, committed, trusts in God, puts God first, turns away from evil, knows right from wrong, listens and learns, and applies wisdom into their life and marriage. By: Angie Lewis

Winning a Man's Heart - How to Make a Guy Fall in Love Quickly

2009-06-04T21:31:00.000-07:00

Do you want to know how you can make a guy fall in love? Have you ever wondered what it is that attracts men? Do you want to know how you can encourage a guy to love you? There are some great tips which can make falling in love with a guy much easier. Learning how to make a guy fall in love isn't actually as difficult as you might imagine and it's also quicker than most people think.

Men are actually quite complicated and are fully capable of falling in love but they often make the mistake of confusing love and lust. Men don't actually normally understand what it is they are feeling which can make it very difficult to decide which one is which. It's much easier to get a guy to lust after you rather than fall in love with you as the two are completely different. Learn how to make a guy fall in love, not simply want you because of lust.

Women would have much less problem to find a man if lust and love were actually the same. This would make it possible to dress in sexy clothes and get a guy to love you. If you want to get to know him and fall in love with him then you need to work on your personality and conversation. Flings and relationships are two very different things.

Excitement

Men feel things on two levels, while it's very easy to make a man sexually excited it's much harder to make him emotionally excited. You want to be able to make him feel alive so that he will want to keep on coming back. You need to concentrate your efforts on his feelings so that you can use his emotions to your advantage. Spend time discussing hobbies and interests with one another. Make sure that you are always there for him and willing to talk about anything.

Go slow

Men can fall in love but it takes them much longer than women. This means that you need to be patient and willing to slow things right down. Don't push him too hard as this will mean that you will end up losing him if you're not careful. You simply need to sit back and relax. Don't put too much pressure on him because if he's not ready then you will have trouble. Learning how to make a guy fall in love will make it much easier to find a lifelong partner.

Does He Love You? How to Know

2009-05-19T16:28:00.000-07:00

How can you tell if your man actually loves you? Has he said the words, but you want to know if he means it? Do you want to avoid another painful breakup and figure out how he really feels about you? If so, then keep reading. Here are three tests of your relationship's strength.

#1. Is it All About Him?

Just because he's spending a lot of time with you, does not mean that he loves you. You might just be providing something that he wants for the time being. Maybe you are really supportive of him. Is he always talking about himself? Do you have to hear about his problems at work all the time? Pay attention to how your conversations are going. If he is only into him, then you may have a problem.

#2. Is He Supportive of You?

If a guy can't handle your problems while you're only dating, then he certainly won't be able to handle the stresses of marriage and children with you. Test him now. See if he will listen while you talk about how awful your day at work was. If he's too busy playing X-Box to grab you a box of Kleenex, then he probably doesn't have sincere feelings about you, and you might want to think about this before things get too serious.

#3. Will He Commit to You?

If he's not willing to date exclusively, especially if you've been seeing one another for awhile, then he probably doesn't love you. This is especially true if you're relationship has gotten physical. If he doesn't see the benefit of being with only you, then move on to someone who does.

Well, I hope that your relationship can pass the test. Try these tips to see if he really loves you.

How to Make Him Fall in Love And How to Make Him Stay in Love

2009-05-11T08:35:00.000-07:00

Is it possible to make him fall in love? Why do men fall in love easily, but they can't seem to stick around longer than a few weeks? Are they really just jerks who can't commit? It's hardly that simple -- if you want to make him fall in love, simply remember that beauty is only skin deep.

Let's talk about physical attraction for a minute. Physical attraction is a great draw for men, since they naturally love looking at young, sexy, beautiful women. But is physical attraction enough to make him fall head-over-heels for you?

Physical attraction is all well and good, since it's often enough to break the ice with a guy you just met. But if you don't have the personality to match it, men will soon realize that you're only good-looking, but nothing more. It's never enough to make him commit to you.

But even if he does commit to you because of your looks, chances are the relationship won't last long. If all he's after is your body, then it's only a matter of time before he gets bored and starts looking for fun elsewhere, and you'll be left bitterly criticizing the "ugly" women he hooks up with next.

Nope, physical attraction is never enough. You'll need to trigger a chemistry -- a deeper, more emotional attraction -- in order to really make him fall in love. This emotional attraction is precisely what makes men want to commit for the long-term.

The easiest way to trigger this emotional attraction is to be different from all the other women. That means you'll need to be independent (able to be happy even without him), easygoing (being an optimist and having a sense of humor), and smart (having more things to talk about than just the weather and how lousy your day was).

If you take things in stride and let him discover interesting new things about you every time you meet, then he'll definitely be thinking of you whenever you're apart. Before you know it, he'll be calling you up and asking you out again.

To make him fall in love, remember that you'll have to appeal to his mind as well as his eyes.

10 Love Relationship Don'ts

2009-04-15T23:03:00.000-07:00

Are you currently doing things that may be negatively affecting your love relationship? We don't always understand the impact of the things we do or say until it's too late. It's important to avoid the things that inadvertently hurt or push our partner away.

Here are 10 things you should never do in a love relationship...ever

1. Don't stop falling in love over and over again

Successful couples continually fall in love with each other. They find new reasons to be in love with their partner and don't let the petty day-to-day things ruin those feelings. Love doesn't have to die after commitment. In fact, it should grow to ever increasing heights. So, feel free to fall in love all over again....and again...and again.

2. Don't value being right over being loving

Too many of us want to be right more than we want to be loving. We choose winning an argument over continually winning the heart of our loved one
. When you have to be right, you are simultaneously making your partner wrong. Don't engage in these 1 or the other conversations. Instead, value your partner's opinion and then offer up yours. They are both opinions, so 1 is not more or less correct than the other. They are simply 2 different perspectives. If you continue to make your partner feel wrong, they will stop offering their opinion to you. That doesn't lead to any place good.

3. Don't stop planning together for the future

It could be planning for the kid's college or the next vacation. It could be planning for retirement or for a friend's birthday party. The key is to keep planning together for the future. When you do so, you create common goals to pursue as a unit. This strengthens the bonds of partnership, friendship, and mutual admiration. Find something you are both interested in doing, and work on it together. You are either growing closer together or further apart. Planning together helps to keep you growing together.

4. Don't stop being attractive for your partner

Many couples stop doing the things that led to the relationship in the first place. If you figured that once you were in a committed relationship that you could stop engaging in attractive behaviors, you were mistaken. Each person in the partnership expected the other to continue doing and saying the things they found attractive. So, flirt. Wear clothing that your partner finds you flattering in. Remind your partner how attractive they are to you. Be playful, be thoughtful and be loving. Be irresistible to your partner and allow them to return the favor.

5. Don't embarrass your partner publicly

Remember this simple rule: Praise publicly and criticize privately. When the need arises to tell your partner something difficult, do so in the most humble, loving, respectful and honest way possible. In public, tell everyone about how fantastic your partner is. Talk about the things you find best in them. Positive attention is a reward of sorts, and what gets rewarded gets repeated. Your partner trusts you with their heart and emotional security. Don't publicly criticize your partner.

6. Don't say "Always" or "Never" while arguing

Whenever we say our partner always does something or never does something, we are exaggerating. The discussion then turns to how the partner being accused must defend themselves against this blatant mischaracterization. The conversation then turns to how you always or never do something. Let's avoid all of this. When you partner does something you don't appreciate, say so then and there. Be respectful, yet honest. Don't pull in past issues. Avoid saying the words "always" and "never" at all costs. Focus on the event or the issue at hand only. Work together to decide how it should be handled next time. Then move on.

7. Don't use intimacy as a weapon

Do you grant intimacy or take it away as a method of persuading your spouse to do what you want? If so, you are cheapening a relationship expression of love by making it a tool of negotiation. Eventually, your partner may not want to express intimacy towards you or receive it from you because of the conditions attached to it. There should be no conditions on expressions of love. Therefore, stop using intimacy as a weapon. This is your partner! Intimacy should come with no strings attached. It is a beautiful and loving expression that should not be used to manipulate your partner.

8. Don't talk negatively about your partner to others

So, your partner does something you think is disrespectful. You tell your friends about it. Later, you and your partner determine it was a simple misunderstanding. When you come back around your friends with your partner, what is their impression? Are they seeing your partner as a disrespectful person? Do they have a full understanding that there was simply a miscommunication between you? We are quick to tell everyone about the bad, and very slow to tell them about the good. Be careful. You could be ruining your partner's reputation even as you know them to be a great person. Avoid talking negatively about your partner.

9. Don't stop nurturing the relationship

Constantly look for ways to assist your partner. Listen with the intent to understand as they talk about things that are important to them. Be present for all of your partner's major life moments. That includes illness, major victories, crushing defeats, and family events. Go out on dates
. Vacation together. Treasure warm conversation over a hot meal. Express love to each other in the way your partner needs to receive it. Be supportive at all times. Remember that the one you love and gave your heart to is worthy of the very best from you.

10. Don't break your commitments

Your commitment to monogamy is crucial; so don't go looking outside for what you already have at home. If you say you are going to do something, do that very thing when and how you promised it to be done. Your word has value that diminishes each time you don't honor your commitments. So, honor yourself and your partner by honoring your commitments. Do what you said you would do each and every time. Your partner will appreciate you more for it.

By James LeGrand

Online Dating & Personal Site Review, Dating Tips, & More

2009-04-08T21:52:00.000-07:00

Each respective single will parade before you like a virtual line up of potential friends, mates, or lovers. Best of all, you get to meet these singles while wearing your grungy sweats and propping your feet up on your computer desk. There's not even a need to primp with makeup or splash and cologne.

Welcome to the world of online dating!
It's true that eyebrows used to rise whenever some new couple announced that they met online. Newspapers and magazines
published in the early 90s were plastered with articles about Internet meetings and sexual flings. Now online dating is the cultural norm, a practical choice over the traditional dating scene. And the outcome can be just as good as (or even better than) traditional dating methods. Marriages are regularly initiated over the Internet.

You can now meet and fall in love with someone before even looking into their eyes or giving them a kiss!People routinely develop online friendships with men and women who live halfway across the world. Some of these friendships lead to committed and monogamous relationships
where one or both of the individuals relocate to another city, state, or country.

Instead of blowing thirty bucks on a stranger you'll
never see again, you can opt to pre-date possible matches. This gives you the chance to develop a relationship online, to truly dig in, get to know each other, and decide if sparks will fly before you even arrange a real date. "Pick one, any one," is the initial psychological impression when viewing the many online profiles.

After all, a visit to an online dating site is almost like
visiting a store,
only the "merchandise" is a real live human being. Instead of being limited to the handful of available local men or women,online dating site users can potentially meet dozens or even hundreds of quality singles.

Anonymous e-mail services allow singles to safely and
effectively get to know each other before any arrangements are made for a face-to-face meeting. This gives cyber daters the ability to sort out the true prospects from the losers in the comfort and privacy of their homes.

Modern online daters have an obvious advantage. Personality tests and other compatibility-geared methods can be used to instantly weed out the majority of wrong matches. The daters are then left with a short list of highly probable prospects. These remaining prospects may have so much in common with the dater to permanently seal a lifelong relationship.

Perhaps the divorce rate will begin to lower as these types of Internet dating sites grow in popularity? Just a thought. Online dating does allow singles to easily weed out the bad from the good. It's a practical option for busy or rofessional men and women who simply do not have time to meet other singles through traditional methods. Online dating is literally like entering another world, only this is the kind of world that can forever change your life.

Now, after you have a "check list” ready, it is time for action.
You can not sit at home and wait for prince/princess charming to just fall from the sky for you.

Go out, meet new people, join different social groups, go to parties or try to do it the modern way - Online dating like Match Infinity. You can give it a try…it worked for me.

As an experienced “online dater”, I have decided to make my own singles dating site which is open for everyone who feels like giving it a shot. It is equipped with the latest technology, dating articles, tips, and a lot more.

Good luck.

Make a Guy Fall in Love With You - Two Things You Must Do

2009-04-05T18:45:00.000-07:00

Do you have what it takes to make a guy fall in love with you? Do you know the things about girls that drive men crazy in love? Do you have that special thing that will get you to a man's heart? If you're still clueless about the whole get-the-guy thing, read on and find out more about how to make the man of your dreams fall in love with you.

It's a known fact that men fall in and out of love easier than women. But this is only because most of the love that they feel is probably either just lust or simple attraction. Men are simple creatures, so how are they supposed to distinguish one from the other?

However, while men find it easy to fall for women, it is NEVER easy to make a man fall HOPELESSLY in love with you.

Life would be so much simpler if love and lust were the same. All you need to do is wear your skimpiest clothes and strut your stuff in front of that guy you want. But since love and lust couldn't be more different, you're going to need more than just your great body and your attractive personality to get through the door to a man's heart.

Push his buttons

Men get excited easily so it's only logical that they would fall for a woman who triggers amazing feelings in them. You want to be that lady who seems to be carrying some sort of magic that makes the world an amazing place. Some women have that gift that makes men swoon, but if you don't have that charisma, then you're going to need to wield the magic wand and make the amazing feeling happen. To make a guy fall in love with you, you need to push the right buttons and trigger the right emotions in him. Say the right things, encourage him in his hobbies and pursuits. Be there when the world agrees with him, and he's likely to associate those good vibes with you.

Follow his pace

Unfortunately, men take time to mature so you're going to have to adjust your pace. You can't expect your man to fall hopelessly in love with you just because you have already fallen madly in love with him. If he's still in the "I'm still trying to get to know you" mode, back up a few steps and join him. Enjoy the ride while you're at it and don't force him to take the next step if he's not ready for it yet. Otherwise, he's just going to feel pressured that he can't match your pace in the relationship. BY Tina L.Jones

Internet Dating - It's Not For Geeks

2009-04-05T18:15:00.000-07:00

Six months ago an old school friend and I were chatting over coffee, putting the world to rights as women do. She was bemoaning her lack of success in meeting the “right sort” of men. I asked her if she had tried using an internet dating service, and the look of horror that quickly appeared on her face gave the instant answer – of course not! Internet dating, she informed me, was for the sad, desperate, geeky or freaky.

Sadly this type of response is typical of people from all walks of life. Why sadly? Because those who instantly dismiss such services are missing out on a great opportunity.

The traditional argument for not using the internet to meet someone is that it is not natural. So what is natural? Where have people traditionally met their husbands, wives, lovers, and friends?

Statistically, over the past 50 years the most common place for meeting ones spouse has been the workplace. This is hardly surprising given the ever increasing amounts of time most people are finding themselves working. Other common meeting places include bars, nightclubs, and parties, and some lucky few meet their lifetime partner early in life at college or university. However, the workplace remains number one for long term relationships. The reason for this is simple; lasting long term relationships are usually born out of robust friendships, and strong friendships form over time. Spend eight hours a day five days a week with the same people and you will get to know them very well. It is not uncommon in the modern world to spend more time with your colleagues than with your family, an unfortunate but true fact of life.

The increasing amounts of time we as a society are spending working is leaving less time to spend in social environments outside of the office, which means less opportunity to meet new people. So if you don’t meet someone at work, where else is there? Enter the dating agency.

Dating agencies are not a new idea, they have been around a very long time. The internet has simply served as a new medium for bringing people together in a tried and tested way that agencies have used for years. However, it offers some unique advantages for those seeking a partner. Firstly it has lowered the cost of running a dating service, and that means agency dating has been opened up to a much wider audience. Secondly, it has broken down geographical barriers in a way that off-line agencies could never hope to. This is an important point because not everyone is looking for their future husband or wife on their doorstep. Indeed not everyone is looking for a future husband or wife; the explosion in internet dating has made it easier than ever to find new friends and correspondents across the globe.

These two points mean that some of the bigger agency sites now have in excess of three million members, and literally thousands of new members joining every day. With that many people, if you are serious about finding a partner, lover, or a friend, then the internet is simply too big a resource to ignore. And ‘net dating is safe too; there is no need to exchange real names or even email addresses until you feel you know someone well enough. All the services allow you to block unwanted communication and so there is no fear of being pestered. Used sensibly, internet dating can be safer than almost any other way of meeting people.

The internet has revolutionised the way we work, shop, conduct our financial affairs, and entertain ourselves. To use it as a medium for meeting new people is a logical step in our fast changing world.

After that chat six months ago I convinced my friend to post a profile on a dating site, she didn’t even have to pay anything to do so unless she wanted to start sending messages to other people. Now I never see her because she is spending all of her time with her new man. She didn’t find him in five minutes like some of the sales pitches would like you to believe, but then six months ago she didn’t expect to find him at all.

The Secret of Love

2009-04-03T21:54:00.000-07:00

Trust me, you are not alone. There are millions and millions of people looking to find the love that they want in their lives. And there are just as many places where people can go if they hope to meet the person that they are looking for.

What most people do not realize is that they are actually going backwards in their pursuit of love. What do I mean by this?

Many people are looking to find someone to give them love. They are looking on the outside to help change how they feel on the inside.
Unfortunately, it usually does not work that way. To change how you feel on the inside, you have to make changes on the inside. Your outside world is a reflection on who you are and how you feel on the inside.

People can also make the mistake of not being an active participant in their lives. Instead of seeking what they want, they wait for it to occur and are disappointed when it doesn't happen. No matter what it is that you want in your life, you have to become a willing and active participant. You have to seek it out.

This where many people fail when they are trying to attract a relationship or a friendship that will provide them with the love that they are looking for. They are waiting for it to show up without giving it out themselves or by becoming an active seeker in their lives. You won't get what you want by waiting for it. You have to ACT!

True Love Might Require That You Love Him-Her Enough to Let Them Go

2009-04-03T21:51:00.000-07:00

True love is supposed to be what brought you together. Many couples though, whether just dating, engaged to be married, married couples or people just living together experience difficult times, heartaches and breakups. Does true love have a roll at these times? What if it does? Can you handle that kind of love?

It's true you don't feel true love when you are the one being left.

There is no sense of love when someone leaves you and you feel betrayed or, feel that you have been done wrong. What you are feeling is angry and hurt. But what if the shoe was on the other foot and you were the one who felt you needed to leave? Maybe it's not your desire to hurt the one you're leaving but you have realized that you didn't really love them. You want to move on because there is no sense in trying to be a couple if only one of you desires to be there.

If you are the one being left how should you respond in the situation? How does true love play a part in such a scenario? You are angry and hurt. You feel betrayed and maybe even a bit used and down right mistreated. These are the kinds of feelings and emotions that accompany being left. It's like the fabric of your very being is being ripped to shreds. When you can't seem to stop or get through these feelings and emotions they can lead to bad health. So what can you do differently to avoid the stuff? Well, how deep is the well where love exists in your heart? Not your love for the other person but just love in you.

Here is True Love

Love would not hold someone prisoner. Love won't try to force someone's will. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. Love never fails.

That is true love. Sounds like a lot doesn't. The good news is that you don't have to do love. Let love do itself. Read again all the things love is and then just submit to it. You have to submit your self to love. In your pain; in your loneliness; in your misery; in your deepest most profound sadness submit yourself to love.

Sometimes it may feel like you are giving up or giving in. You may feel like a failure, defeated and beaten down but, you must submit to true love. It is not that you are doing this for the other person so much as you are doing it for yourself. You only give up your desire for love. To submit to love is to release yourself from the pain. If you don't submit to love you can't forgive. And if you can't forgive you will remain trapped in your pain, loneliness, misery and sadness. No matter what you decide to do, love and forgive or, refuse to love and refuse to forgive, the person who left will still be gone. More than likely they will be going on with their life.

True love helps you to release them without anger and malice. In releasing them through love you release your self to quicker healing. To love in this way helps you avoid bitterness. You will become stronger and mentally more stable. Your emotional health will be stimulated. You will be wiser for your next relationship. Yes there will be another relationship. You will be wiser going in and able to again love freely. Love will carry you through and guide you into a relationship with someone who will truly love you

HOW TO MAKE HIM NEED YOU - Relationship Advice for Women

2009-04-03T04:22:00.000-07:00

Most of us have been in a relationship where we felt the man we were with just wasn't as into us as we were into him. It's frustrating and disappointing to be crazy about a man who seems a little cold and distant. Learning how to make him need you can change the entire dynamic of your relationship and can shift what he's feeling from cool and controlled to hot and bothered. If you want to make yourself completely irresistible to your man there are just a few things you should be doing.

Most men secretly long to be with kind women. We're taught to be very self sufficient and confident when we are looking for a man to share our lives with. Unfortunately some women take this to mean that they need to be a bit removed and self focused. Although men do want to be with women who are confident and in control of their lives, they also want to be with someone who is kind and nice to others. Not all women are genuinely kind hearted but it's a quality that men find hard to resist. Show the man you are with that you can be nice to others and giving. He'll want and need you more because of it.

If you can make a man feel great about himself he's going to need you. Men are drawn to women who make them feel as though they're better men. Most of us know at least one or more couples who struggle in their relationship because there is conflict between the partners. If a woman is repeatedly telling the man in her life what he is doing wrong, as opposed to embracing and celebrating everything he does right, the man isn't going to open up as much emotionally as he might. If you want to make him need you treat him as though he's your hero. Be grateful for everything he brings to your life and thank him when he does things for you. He wants to be the person you turn to and the one who is always there to help you. If you can help him to feel this way, he'll want to spend as much time with you as he possibly can.

Dating Tips For Women - Where to Go to Find Him

2009-04-03T01:34:00.000-07:00

1. Take stock and then shake it up! - There are certain parts of your daily routine that you can tweak to open up new windows of opportunity, such going to a different grocery store, going to work in a different way, change your daily patterns. etc.

2. How to tell if he's single (and what to do if he's not.) - If he's married, chances are that he will be wearing a wedding band. If he is married, well...he may just have cute brothers and friends. You can still talk to him and let him know you are single.

3. Network, network, network. - Tell your friends that you're available, and even if your dates don't work out, you will have still met someone who can refer you to his friends you him to your friends. All guys have friends and your date might be a match for your friend even if he is not for you. Pass him around and tell your friends to do the same.

4. Be a friendly neighbor. - It's always a good idea to get to know your neighbors. They can be a source of friendship and even to meet single men. Reach out and say hello and socialize! Don't forget to smile!

5. Good greet! - Volunteering to become a greeter for out-of-town visitors can be a great way to perform civic duty - and to meet men of course! Check if your town has such services for you to volunteer!

6. Take to strangers. - Contrary to what you may think, men do actually enjoy being approached by women. Even if it's a hello, talk to a stranger. Incorporate that hello challenge.

7. Create a support system. - This means that you have a group of friends who will be there to really support you when you try to meet new people, especially in social events.

These are just some beginning dating tips for women from America's top matchmaker. There are lots of things you can do to meet men, but often times, they are not always obvious to us. So this is why the Matchmaker is preparing a bigger package this time because so much goes on in the very basic step of actually meeting potential men, and not just seeing them By : Janis Spindel

11 SECRETS TO FIND LOVE

2009-03-24T01:13:00.000-07:00

1# Get to know yourself

Before start looking for love you must first know yourself in depth. It is very important that you know where you come from, who you are and where you are heading. If you do not know yourself, which are your tastes and preferences and if you are unaware of your dreams, it is very unlikely that you can find a person that comes along with you in this wonderful journey called life,that you do it every time you need to remember who you are.

2#Why it is important to know yourself

The reason why you need to know yourself very well
before looking for love or increase your dates is because you need to evaluate your compatibility with the other person.

If you love art and museums but your boyfriend is only interested in baseball or football, he is probably not the one for you. If your dream is to live in a Caribbean Island and go every day to the beach but you meet a woman who hates the sun and the ocean, it is very likely that sooner or later you take different directions.

3# Appreciate yourself

Once you know yourself in depth you have to learn to appreciate and love yourself. Nobody will appreciate you as much as yourself. Appreciate everything about you: the way you are, the way you smile, the way you sing, the way you love. Only by understanding that you are a unique and precious human being, you will be able to really care about others. Every person living on this planet is beautiful and you are one of them.

I have an exercise for you. Take ten minutes in front of a mirror. Watch yourself really close. Try to understand how your fingers, your arms, legs, eyes, nose and your brain work. Then imagine how it would be to live without any of them. I bet that after the exercise you will appreciate yourself even more.

4# Know what love is.
The definition for love is not easy. Every culture in history has had
a different definition for the word but I will try to give a very
wide one.

Love is a deep feeling of affection for someone else. Love usually
comes along with affection, respect, admiration and a constant need
to be close to the one you love. Also – this is very important- love
comes in both ways. You can not be in love of someone who does
not even know you exist. That is most likely to be an obsession but
it is not love for sure.

Love is both a psychological and chemical process. It all begins with
lust. Lust is the initial passionate sexual desire that promotes mating
and involves the release of chemicals such as testosterone and
estrogen. Then comes the attraction. Attraction is the more
individualized and romantic desire for a specific candidate. In the
attraction process, the brain releases many chemicals which causes effects like loss of sleep and appetite and an intense feeling of excitement. For many schollars this stage last no more than 3 years.
After the lust and attraction stages comes the attachment. Attachment is the bond that allows the relationships last for decades. The attachment is reached with the sum of variables such as marriage, children,friendship and common interests.
This lead us to our first premise. If you are looking for someone to love try also to find a very good friend. That friendship creates a very solid and lasting relationship.

5# Know what love is not

Now that you know what love is, you will identify easily what love is not. Your are not in love if the other person does not even want to talk to you. You might be attracted to someone but that is not love.

If you meet a very beautiful girl or a very interesting man, you will probably be attracted but you will definitely not be in love.

Learn to identify the different stages and learn to control your feelings. In that way you will find love a lot easier and you will protect yourself from a lot of unnecessary trouble.

6#Identify the type of person you like
At this point you have to know exactly who you are. Now you will have to find out what is the kind of personality and type of person that you like. This might seem very simple, but an often mistake is to go out just with the wrong kind of people.

Make a list with the specific personality that you would enjoy and love in someone and try to date the people that match your list. If you are the kind of people that love sports, then do not go out with someone that hates sports. It is as simple as that.

In the end the most important is that the person that you choose respect you just the way you are and loves everything about you, the good and the bad.

7# Identify the kind of relationship that you want

This is really important. Before going out with anybody, be clear of your objectives. Make up your mind if you just want to have fun, a relationship or marriage. Once you know what you want, tell the other person about it. In that way both will know what it is all going to be about.

Let me give you another advice: Do not lie. Eventually the other person will find out that you were lying and things will get ugly.

8# Know the facts

If you think dating is hard, let me bring the headlines to you, finding your true love is even harder. Be ready. You will probably get to know a lot of people. Many of them will become your friends. But your true love is not going to be waiting for you right outside your door. You will probably have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your prince or princess, but I sure hope that these tips can eventually make you kiss less frogs.

9# Get the numbers

once you finally manage to talk to the person you are interested in, you have to move fast. Make sure you get the name and the phone number. You will be amazed how many people get in touch with someone they are interested in but then panic, and forget to ask for something as simple as a phone number. In many cases if you let the person goes, you will not have another chance to get a number.

10# Dating

If you feel that you want to ask somebody on a date just do it.
Likewise the phone call, do not over think this. If you want to do it,
just do it.

There is a very wide selection of places to ask somebody out. You
can take someone out to dinner, to the movies, to a game, to a
concert and so on. It all depends on the personality of the one you
are going out with. Make sure you pick a place where the other feels
comfortable. Doing so guarantee that the other will be happy and
relax and so will you.

11# Say I love you

There is not a single most powerful phrase. Use it constantly. Do not be afraid to say it. When you say this phrase with meaning you can stop any fight, you can fix everything.

How to Get a Boyfriend

2009-03-13T03:44:00.000-07:00

Boys are very complicated. they are not like women as you can read more about women lifestyle at www.womendiarynet, and they do not just want to be used as fashion statements. So if you want a boyfriend, make sure that you like him and are willing to be in a serious commitment with him, or at least you feel you may be if you get to know him better, and won't break his heart. Below are some things that show ways to get your man by your side as your dating

First, if you do not already know him, then introduce yourself. If he is interested in you enough to want to get to know you better himself, he will add in some women conversation eventually.
Show him interest in his life.
Make it easy for him to be friendly and talkative with you, but not overpowering.
Invite him to a party. but not just to make out with him or anything, be friendly with him alone until he makes it clear that he really likes you, and wants to be around you.
At this point, just be yourself and let things unwind themselves.

Here is some simple women lifestyle personality dating tips :
If the person you like is shy, then be very gentle to him but admire him for his strengths, few men can resist being told how manly they are unless the girl who tells them is one they are very uninterested in.
Do not be afraid, if you feel you can go up to him without him bashing your heart against the wall (whether on purpose or not) and you notice his seeming interest in you, then you are probably okay.

And..
Do not use him. boys may be bad about using women, but they can still be weak around an irrisistable women even if they are not interested in her, which means breaking your heart and merely adding on his horrible guilt, or having a stalker who wants you for the WRONG reasons. So do not parade yourself around boys too much, for both your own good and their own good and your dating.

Get Lost Love Back From Long Ago

2009-03-13T02:57:00.000-07:00

If you want to get lost love back from a long time ago, you have to realize that you are facing an uphill battle. After the years have gone by, you may have realized that you should not have let go of someone that you previously loved. Maybe the timing was not right at the time, or you simply wanted to move on to greener pastures. Whatever the case, you now realize that the love you once shared with your ex was special and you want to get lost love back. If you are going to pursue your love from long ago, here are some things that you should consider.

Make sure that you are not missing out on what is happening in your life right now. You missed out on a good thing in the past because you were not ready to seize the opportunity. Are you making the same mistake again thinking the grass is greener on the other side? If you hate to look back on your life and say "I should have done that", then try to prevent it from happening again. It is much easier to foster the love you may have now, than to try to get lost love back later because you overlooked the good thing that was right in front of you.
You also need to realize that they have probably moved on. Just because you are feeling nostalgic and thinking about them, does not mean that they feel the same. You could open up some old wounds that took years to heal. If they are happy and satisfied with their lives, leave them alone. If they have moved on without you, it will be highly unlikely that you will be able to get lost love back.
Understand that people change over time. External events have happened in both of your lives that change you for better or worse. Do not make the mistake of trying to relive what once was. If you are going to try to get lost love back, you must believe in your heart that you both will be better off together. This is no time to be selfish and toy with their emotions. If you are going to contact them, be sure of your intentions, and not that you are just feeling sorry for yourself or depressed.
If you want to be successful and get your lost love back, you must take things slowly. If you appear out of nowhere and then contact them constantly, you will look either desperate or psycho. Do not tell them that you want to get back together right away. Take some time to get to know them again. Become friends. If love blooms again, then great. If not, at least you have a new friend that you trust.
Last but not least, you need think about your relationship going forward. You cannot relive what happened years ago, but you can create a new future. The past is the past. Forget about it and treat the relationship as if it were new; because in effect, it is. If you are able to get your lost love back, take advantage of this opportunity and make the most of it.

Discover How to Make Girls Like You With the Snap of a Finger - Learn To Make Girls Like You

2009-03-11T23:04:00.000-07:00

If you are trying to figure out how to make girls like you, you have either had zero success or you have finally found that special someone and you want to make sure that you don't screw it up. There is really no secret to it and all of the answers you really need are right in front of your face, but just in case you are your own worst enemy, here is a little push to get you going back in the right direction.

Listen to what she has to say - This is not the mandatory "uh-huh" every 10 seconds or so when you are having a conversation. You really have to listen to what she is talking about and give her some good feedback. If you are struggling to do this, you may not be with the right woman and you should think about moving on. Face it, you are going to be stuck with this person for the rest of your life and if her conversations don't grab you, you are doomed to failure.

Romance is key - If are not romantic, you better learn how to be, this is one of the most important ways on how to make girls like you. Your woman is not one of the guys and she is not going to be happy going out for a beer and watching football every Sunday. If she does like this, she is doing it because she likes you, not because she actually wants to be there. You need to pay her back by taking her out to a nice romantic dinner and send her some flowers every now and again. And don't just send them on the mandatory days, send them for absolutely no other reason than you think she is the hottest woman alive and just wanted her to know that. Also start doing the things she likes to do as.

Like we said in the beginning, this is not brain surgery. Everything you need to know is built right into you from day one. You just have to get out of your own way and do what you feel is right and the next thing you know, you will have the hottest woman you could ever imagine hanging right onto your arms for the rest of your life! ( Mark J Taylor)

Look dude - if you want to get women to be attracted to you, the fastest way to do this is to use the Triangular Method - which I am going to describe to you completely here. This method is based on female psychology, and involves three elements which form the triangle of attraction which will make any man irresistible to women - doesn't matter if he is fat, ugly or broke. Read on to discover this method and achieve killer results fast...

How To Get Girls To Like You - Using The "Triangular Method"

Triangle Element #1: "Mastery". This particular element involves being good at everything you choose to do. It really does not matter WHAT you do, but just make sure that you stand out doing it. The most popular guys have got something 'different' about them - some particular skill that they have acquired. Be one of those guys - women absolutely love them.

Now quickly do a quick check on what you do well. Do you play a music instrument? Are you good in any particular sports? Develop your niche and you will be ahead of most men who look and sound cookie cutter.

Triangle Element #2: "Challenge". Humans like challenges - women are no exception. If you come across as too easy, then you will not be seen as attractive by the females. On the other hand, if you are not so desperate and have got a laid back attitude, women will come to you in swarms. Be hard to get, and women will want you - plain and simple.

Triangle Element #3: "Surety". Being sure with who you are and what you do is the strongest characteristic that women find attractive in a man. If you have strong self-confidence, then you will emerge as the alpha male of the group. Women want to be LED - and therefore being the leader will endear you to women. (By : Derek Rake)